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How You Can Increase Your Motivation Quality

ID-10038561Camping is not my favorite activity. I’m just not a big fan of cold mornings, ants, wild animals and hard sleeping surfaces.

But, there is one thing my boys love, and that’s camping.

A couple of times a year I get the opportunity to go camping with my sons’ scout group. A couple of years ago when we first started attending these two-day adventures, I have to admit, I wasn’t thrilled.

My attitude wasn’t right and I knew it. I was poorly motivated to go, yet my boys were pumped.

I went. I always did. But my motivation was one of compliance rather than of free will.

I’m sure you’ve been in a similar situation where you lacked motivation for an activity and wished you had a better attitude.

When we analyze motivation, you can see that we have different levels of motivation quality based on the activity. Some motivation can come from fear of losing something. Other behaviors are motivated by compliance. The best quality motivation, however, is from a sense of value and meaningfulness.

The good news is that we can increase our motivation quality. We can raise our level with a bit of work.

Nobody likes to … Read More >

The Dark Side of Goals

Goal Setting

Goals are great and they are certainly a scientifically proven method for achieving the outcomes we have in mind.  But while goals help us focus on our desired achievements, they can easily become the very thing that keeps us from being truly successful in life. Don’t see me as a pessimist — I’m far from it. I’ve just seen too many people and heard too many stories about personal failures that have come from goals gone bad.

So how do goals go bad? Here are a few examples.

Goals can become obsessions – A person becomes overly focused on goals of personal achievement to the detriment of more important priorities in life.

Goals can become too self-focused – A person gets tunnel vision and forgets that a goal is best pursued and achieved with the support, encouragement, and help of others.

Goals can redefine how we measure success – A person can easily believe his/her self-worth is dependent upon reaching certain goals. Goals alone should not be a measure of a person’s significance or success in life.

Am I saying not to set goals? No, not at all. Goals are a key motivational force we can leverage to achieve. We … Read More >

5 Ways to Build a Positive Brain

A considerable amount of research has accumulated over the past decade on the topics of optimism and positivity. It is now very clear that a person’s level of optimism not only impacts his/her personal life, but there is solid evidence that a person’s level of optimism can actually predict his/her performance on the job. In fact, one study found that only 25% of a person’s job performance was predicted by the person’s intelligence level, while 75% of job performance was predicted by the person’s level of optimism, social support, and ability to see stress as a challenge (Horn & Arbuckle, 1988; Estrata, Isea, & Young, 1997)

Other studies clearly show high levels of optimism and positivity supports job success, productivity, resilience, positive work relationships, and even specific job outcomes like sales volume. One of the most interesting findings is that the higher level of optimism a person has the more receptive the person’s brain becomes to learning, change, and adaptability through higher levels of dopamine.

These studies point to the fact that our ability to determine how we perceive and handle our circumstances can have a significant impact on our career achievement and our life satisfaction and happiness. We can … Read More >

Disconnect to Connect

Always connected seems to be our new reality. Mobile technology has given us more work flexibility and entertainment than we ever thought possible. Although convenient, it’s an invitation for continual disconnection to the important things in life.  As people who want to impact the lives of others in a positive way, we must intentionally disconnect to enable real connection with what’s most important. This video communicates this better than any I have seen. Let’s make sure we don’t miss the important moments of life!

Why Your Personal Energy Is So Important

It’s evident that more people and organizations (both for-profit and non-profit) are becoming increasing interested in how to maximize energy. The reasoning is simple, the more energy a person has the more she or he will be able to fully engage in whatever activity is at hand. In our energy draining world, where many of us work in energy depleting environments, and sometimes with energy sucking people, the skill of maintaining and even optimizing our energy is a key factor of personal and professional success. I am convinced that without optimized energy, it becomes very difficult to effectively focus, engage, and persevere in the activities and experiences that lead us consistently on our mission path.

I like what Jim Loehr says about energy in his book The Corporate Athlete Advantage, “Just like the sun’s energy spawns life in plants, and plants spawn life in humans, we spawn life in whatever we give our energy to.”

As you think about your personal energy development, I’d encourage you to think about the following dimensions that work interdependently and make up the fabric of your life energy.

Physical Energy is the energy that is created by the nutrients and oxygen that you … Read More >

Energy for Life (Part 6) – Increasing Your Spiritual Energy

Spiritual energy is the core of your energy reservoir and gives life to your physical, emotional, and mental dimensions of life. Living for something greater than yourself and discovering your unique contribution will increase your passion and invigorate your life. In this video, I share a process for beginning the journey of spiritual energy development.

Energy for Life (Part 5) – Increasing Your Mental Energy

Optimizing your mental energy can give you better focus, create clarity of thought, and help you stop the mental fatigue so many people feel at the end of the day. In this video post I share 3 simple ways you can increase your mental energy.

Energy for Life (Part 4) – Inceasing Your Emotional Energy

Are you an emotional energizer or drainer? We all have emotional energy, but the quality of this energy has a large impact on your quality of life and greatly influences the people around you. In this video I discuss 4 ways you can build positive emotional energy.

Energy For Life (Part 3) – Increasing Your Physical Energy

Physical energy is a foundation to your overall personal energy. In this video I discuss the 4 areas every person must focus on to generate optimal physical energy. 1) Sleep/Wake Cycle, 2) Movement/Exercise, 3) Recovery, and 4)Nutrition. I’ll share with you several quick ideas for how you can better focus on each of these areas.

Energy for Life (Part 2)

To increase your energy you must focus on all 4 energy dimensions of your life including Physical, Emotional, Mental, and Spiritual. We can’t just focus on one or two areas and expect to have abounding energy or life balance. While each dimension is interdependent on the others, when we focus on creating energy in all areas we can achieve an exponential energy effect.


 

What Will Matter?

What will matter is not what you bought but what you built,

not what you got but what you gave.

What will matter is not your success but your significance.

What will matter is not what you learned but what you taught.

What will matter is every act of integrity, compassion, courage or sacrifice that enriched, empowered, or encouraged others to emulate your example.

What will matter is not your competence but your character.

What will matter is not your memories but the memories if those who loved you.

What will matter is how long you will be remembered, by whom, and for what.

Living a life that matters doesn’t happen by accident.

It’s not a matter of circumstance but of choice.

Choose to live a life that matters.

A portion of a poem by Michael Josephson

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